Best ways to distance yourself from a toxic family member?

2021.09.20 16:55 np819 Best ways to distance yourself from a toxic family member?

After I graduated college a few years ago I moved across the country for work to a city about 20 minutes away from my Uncle. Growing up I always viewed him as the "Fun Uncle" who we saw a few times a year and was always this larger than life character. The older I got, especially when I was in college, I realized how much of his lifestyle revolved around drinking and partying. Regardless of that, we always had a good time together but all our interactions were surface level, no real depth.
After moving near him initially it was a lot more of the same. He showed me around, we would go out for drinks occasionally and my relationship with him was pretty much what it had always been, I just saw him a little bit more.
This is where the problems begin...
Not long after moving here my grandmother (his mom) started to develop really bad dementia. She lives near the rest of my family and her care ultimately became my Dad and Aunts responsibility. The two of them have been nothing short of heroes. for a full year and a half they alternated living with her so that she didn't have to leave her house, putting many aspects of their own lives on hold. They spared no expense in visiting multiple doctors to determine the best course of action for care. Early on in the pandemic when nothing was known of the virus my grandmother got COVID and my Aunt quarantined with her for two weeks literally putting her own life on the line. Ultimately they exhausted every single option before they determined the only option was to place her in a long term care facility, which they did with a heavy heart and are still extremely involved in her life.
Throughout all of that my Uncle has been so mean and nasty to my Aunt and Dad. His opinion is that they gave up on her, that she doesn't have bad dementia, and that ultimately they are killing her. While holding these strong opinions he has seen her for around a total of a month in the past 2 years and has not really offered to help at all regarding her care.
Initially I felt bad for him and assumed he was just in denial regarding her condition so I tried to be there for him in hopes he would get better. Sadly it has become clear to me that unless he receives professional help he will only get worse and I need to distance myself for my own sanity. I have been trying just to avoid him but I receive a lot of calls and texts and am unsure what to do to make it clear that unless he gets help I can't be in his life.
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2021.09.20 16:55 gregveres migration assistant with source drive failing?

I have a 9 year old nas with 4 drives and the one of those drives just started to "fail" (2 bad sectors). I decided to purchase a new nas with 6 drives for a healthy upgrade.

I am now trying to use synology migration assistant to migration from the old nas to the new nas. The problem is that migraiton assistant checked the source nas and said it is unable to perform the migration because of the "abnormal storage status". This is rediculous. I would say that a major use case of the migration assistant is to clone a failing nas!

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This happened yesterday when my friend brought their new kitten (female) to our home to meet our two cats(also females, 3 and 2 yrs old).
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After they hade left, our two cats just starred at each other with big eyes and then started hissing and it continued throughout today as well.
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Thanks
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